Note: I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or a counselor. Knowing what we have been through and talking with friends what have also been through this, these are my own personal suggestions for whatever they are worth.
1. Understand her motivation. Stop and think about what is driving your ex-wife's behavior. In the cases I have seen, the ex-wife is angry and bitter that the ex-husband stopped loving her and has, most likely, moved on with his life. NOTE: Understanding is not the same as excusing. There is no justification in the world for nasty behavior, no matter who hurt who. But if you can understand that her behavior is completely based on emotions and hurt, you will be better prepared to cope with it.
2. Deal with your own anger first. Your ex wife can no longer make you love her, but if she can still hurt you or make you angry, she is getting a little sense of victory over you. No matter what she has said, no matter what she has done, you have moved on with your…
So Sunday night I discovered a new "social media" website called prabook.org,
and the WAY I discovered it was to find out that someone had created a
profile for ME--without my permission or knowledge--INCLUDING date and
location of birth, who my parents are (including my mother's maiden name), and they even had a copy of an
old resume and had uploaded all the details from that. I immediately
contacted them to tell them to take it down, which they did, but they
said that since anyone can add information, it could be restored, they
would do nothing about it, and they assumed no responsibility for
anything about their website.
I know there's a lot of information and public records available online, but the resume they got hold of was from around 1997, so it would have been printed on actual paper and mailed to companies. It was never emailed or uploaded to anything. So the copy they have, if not obtained illegally, was certainly obtained in an unauthorized m…
NOTE: I am not an attorney, psychologist, counselor or therapist. These are simply my suggestions and thoughts having dealt with a hostile ex-wife for the last 3 years.
So, what if you are the new wife or girlfriend of a man with a bitter ex wife? How do you cope?
First--if you are dating, make sure the divorce has been final for at least a year before getting involved with anyone--male or female. There is a grieving process, and even mentally healthy people can experience anger and bitterness over a recent divorce, so give everyone time to heal and move on. Normal people will generally be over it and moved on after about a year.
Second--if you are dating, find out if the ex wife has moved on. Does she work? Have friends? Is she remarried? Dating? Some women do manage to remain bitter & hostile even after remarrying, but a woman who is working, remarried, and has a life of her own is far less likely to be a problem. In the cases I'm familiar with, the ex wife continues…